Easy Tasks To Get Yourself Into A Good Frame Of Mind

When things get to much, and it feels like there’s little you can do to get yourself into a good frame of mind, that can create a lot of stress. If you suffer from anxiety and/or depression, then you know what it’s like to spiral out of control. It gets to the point where nothing […]

Easy Tasks To Get Yourself Into A Good Frame Of Mind

Easy Tasks To Get Yourself Into A Good Frame Of Mind

When things get to much, and it feels like there’s little you can do to get yourself into a good frame of mind, that can create a lot of stress. If you suffer from anxiety and/or depression, then you know what it’s like to spiral out of control. It gets to the point where nothing […]

Easy Tasks To Get Yourself Into A Good Frame Of Mind

Are You a Good Friend to Yourself?

Written by Dr. Eric Perry Image Credit: Pixabay “A friend is a gift you give yourself.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson What kind of friend are you? Are you attentive, kind and compassionate or, are you neglectful, uncaring and critical? Scrolling through quotes on the internet, I was reminded of the immense value we place on friendship. […]

Are You a Good Friend to Yourself?

#wellbeingwednesday

Hello to all you beautiful people

It is officially hump day so why not take sometime out to improve your wellbeing. There are so many things you can do, take a walk, have a relaxing bath or even just take 5 minutes for yourself.

Looking after your own wellbeing is so important, you can’t love other people if you don’t love and take time for yourself.

Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy your wellbeing time x

Parenting in Lockdown

In this post I’m going to share some very frank things about the stress I have faced being a Mum during lockdown. I would appreciate it if you could keep any negative judgement to yourself.

Now at this point I would very much like to stress that I love both of my children unconditionally.

I am a Mum to 2 beautiful children aged 6 and 1. I work as a child and family support worker for children and young people who are impacted by someone else’s drug or alcohol use. This primarily involves 4-16 year olds who’s parent are either drug or alcohol dependent.

My husband is a staff officer working within the local authority.

We are both key workers however I have been lucky enough to be in a position to work from home during this time, which to a degree is fantastic.

However, doing my job and ensuring my children don’t accidentally kill themselves or each other has been an absolute nightmare.

A lot of people will probably be thinking how? Well I can give you a few snippets.

As part of my job I have to be involved in professional safeguarding meetings, my son likes to choose this point in time to demand things from me because he knows I will end up saying yes because he will not go away until I do.

God help me if I ask my son to wear anything more than a pair of underwear at the moment.

My daughter has decided that her sole focus in life right now is to be a dare devil, I can literally turn my back for 30 seconds and she will either be on the computer desk or climbing on the dining room table.

I would say I tidy my living room on average 5 times a day before admitting defeat.

My son hates walking or pretty much anything that involves being outside and my daughter wants nothing more than to be outside.

I have pretty much given up on home schooling because frankly me and my son were just getting annoyed at each other when doing it, I have to admit I’m not a very good teacher.

They are pretty much eating me out of house and home and by lunch time if I hear the words snack or food I am about ready to scream.

The point I am trying to make to all the Mum’s, and Dad’s, out there is that you are doing an amazing job…

If you’re kids are loved you’re doing great

If you’re kids are safe you’re doing great

If you’re kids are fed you’re doing great

If you’re house is a pig sty so what its not like anyones going to be visiting right now

If you’re kids haven’t managed to complete every piece of work sent home by school that’s OK

If when they are finally in bed you feel a huge sense of relief, that’s normal, especially right now

Fill this time with positive memories as much as you can so that when we come out of this your children remember this time as the time when Mummy or Daddy stayed at home with us and played games or Mummy or Daddy did crafts with us, not the time when Mummy or Daddy were scared, stressed and angry.

I am very much aware that we are all feeling the stress and pressure of this right now but so what you can to not let what you are feeling impact on your kids.

None of us were prepared for any of this and we are all doing the best we can so give yourself a break and know that you are doing amazing.

To all the Mum’s and Dad’s out there who aren’t feeling like this…i envy you, I really really do.

Thanks and dont forget to subscribe x

How to Manage Your Anxiety in an Anxious World

Written by Dr. Eric Perry, PhD Image Credit: Pixabay “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia Millions of us are living lives disproportionately full of worry. This excessive worrying outweighs the possible impact that the occurrence of the anxiety-provoking event would have on our lives. We […]

How to Manage Your Anxiety in an Anxious World

A bit of background part 2

For those of you who haven’t read my previous ‘a bit of background’, I am writing a series of weekly posts about my life and how art has helped me through difficult time.

Today I’m going to move on to my school years. As you will see from the pictures in this post, even I have to admit I was an odd looking kid.

I experienced a lot of bullying growing up, my ears stuck out, I had glasses, crooked teeth and some bizarre hair styles thanks to my mum. FYI that picture above is a perm, my hair is naturally straight.

At primary school it was just your average name calling really and people not wanting to be my friend.

That changed quite drastically when I hit secondary school. It went very quickly from name calling to chewing gum in my hair, threats, my hair being set on fire, knives being put up to my throat, my stuff being stolen, the list cold go on and on.

I didn’t have a lot of friends and truth is I was being bullied at home and at school. I hated myself because I thought everyone hated me.

As a result I sought affection in some very inappropriate ways, participating in sexual behaviour that was definitely not appropriate for the age I was. At 13 years old I was ‘going out’ with a guy who was 22.

I was drinking and smoking because I thought that would make me cool and make people like me.

My Mum tried to help to a degree, she would wash the car and do the gardening in skimpy outfits because she thought it would make boys at school want to hang round with me. All that it achieved was for me to be the girl who’s mum was a MILF.

I experienced a lot of bullying because of my ears, when I was 14 I had my ears pinned back under local anesthetic, I was the first person in my area of the UK to have had this surgery while awake but the waiting list to be put to sleep was long and I wasn’t willing to wait, I had had enough.

I remember lying there listening to the scraping away at the cartilage behind my ear and hating myself for giving into to all the ridicule because they had finally won and beat me.

That made no difference, to start with they then just bullied me for being the girl who’d had her ears pinned back and after they got bored of that they just found other reasons. I think I was just an easy target to be honest.

As in my previous post, art was my escape, now I probably should add that I am not this amazing fantastic artist, but for me, the feeling that I get from the process of creating art is so relaxing and therapeutic.

I loved art, up until when I began my GCSEs at school. My art teacher was very much of the opinion that art should be a certain way or look a certain way, which in my opinion is ‘bs’ (excuse the language). As far as I am concerned art is your interpretation of something and there is no right or wrong way to do it, however that’s a different issue all in its self.

The point I am getting at is that up until the age of 15 art played a huge role in supporting my emotional wellbeing. Everytime I thought about not wanting to be alive, about running away and about hurting myself, I used art as my escape, it relaxed me but also took my focus away from all the bad stuff that was happening in my life.

Thanks for reading and dont forget to subscribe 🙂 x

My latest masterpiece

I wanted to share with you my latest work of art and the methods I used.

Image drawn by Kanoko Egusa for the Animal Wonderland Special Colouring Heaven Magazine

I began by putting down all my base colours using Chameleon Marker Pens. I love these markers the colours are so vibrant and you can refill the inks.

Image drawn by Kanoko Egusa and coloured by Charmayne Heys

A word of warning. Alcohol markers tend to leak depending upon the paper stock so my advice would be to start with your lighter colours and then you can always cover any spreading with your darker colours.

As you can see below, they also tend to soak through the paper so don’t use them if your images are double sided and put a blank piece of paper between the page and the one behind.

I then went on to use Staedtler Ergosoft pencils to add detail and shading.

Image drawn by Kanoko Egusa and coloured by Charmayne Heys
Image drawn by Kanoko Egusa and coloured by Charmayne Heys

I then finished by adding a background and some highlights. I hope you like it.

Image drawn by Kanoko Egusa and coloured by Charmayne Heys

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